When you’re overwhelmed, don’t just keep pushing through. I know too many fellow high achievers who feel so much pressure to perform that they just keep trying to knock out their to-do lists—and hamster-wheel themselves into the ground.

Have you ever felt like the only way your life would be in order is if you made a time-blocked agenda for the week, scheduling your time down to the minute and slotting in every task you can think of to meet every goal you can think of for yourself? There's a word for that, my friends: hypervigilance.

If I say the word “routine” to a group of people, you can bet there will be two kinds of reactions: a visceral shudder, and a smiling nod. Why? Well, I would say it’s because that word means very different things to these two groups. And it’s such a polarizing word that really I haven’t seen a reaction anywhere in the middle. No “meh, a routine.” Just either a screeching “I hate routines!” or a beaming “Boy, I love routines!"

I want to show you some (possibly new) ways to think about routines.